Blue Is The Warmest Colour is like a realist coming-of-age movie. Sure, you see a ton of them disguised into teem dramas and comedies, but they’re usually pretty light of heart, with some simple message or something attached to them. “Colour” though presents these ideas with serious levity. Not only is our main character Adele working her way through school, but she’s also discovering her sexuality and discovering who she is. She has sex and dates a boy, but it doesn’t really feel right, that is not until she meets Emma in a gay bar, and fully recognizes love and who she is.
We follow them over a couple years, Adele getting her life on track, becoming a teacher, living with Emma and gaining a hold over her life. As quickly as it all comes together, though, it all falls apart when Emma gets jealous of Adele spending time with a mutual male friend, and flips out on her over the affair. Adele is gutted and at a loss without Emma, something she can’t fathom, but is now left out all on her own. They meet up a time later, when wounds could possibly have been healed, but Adele is still madly in love. Emma on the other-hand is not, she’s moved on. A mutual understanding of forgiveness is settled upon, but Adele will and still feels for Emma in a way that she doesn’t reciprocate. They both go on their ways, changed from their time together, but never to repeat it.
That’s the entire crux of the film and its themes. Adele is young and inexperienced in love and sex, and especially the confusion she felt earlier on. This is her first connection with someone on this level, and the loss of it is crushing and feels like her whole world is lost. She’ll get over it eventually, maybe not for a bit, maybe not fully, but she’ll love again. Possibly and probably someone more than Emma. Emma was older and more experienced, she knows how these things can go, but Adele is just trying to find herself in this world. It’s all for Adele about learning her way through, gaining as much love and affection and moving forward. It’s hard for her to face at her age, but that’s what “coming-of-age” is, a realization of yourself and your place in life, while coming to terms with nothing is really ever set in concrete.